Seducing Women: It Takes All Kinds

I’ve been with a lot of women. I’ve also observed a lot of men trying to seduce women. It’s been interesting to notice how men have several different ways of expressing their desires and have different seduction techniques.

Here’s what I’ve noticed:

Silent Player
Some men like to be the silent admirers. Their actions are very simple. They will stare at a woman and not initiate any conversation. Every time a woman looks at them, they smile back but say nothing. Sometimes the woman would get up and initiate a conversation while other times, she would just walk past and not give another glance.

“In Your Face” Player
Other men are “in your face” types. They are very direct and will tell a woman exactly what’s on their mind and what their intention is. Some women find the direct approach quite a turn-on; others find this kind of guy intimidating.

The Experienced Player
Then there’s the more experienced player. He is very calm and reassured. He listens to what a woman has to say. You’d think wealth or age would help to make a player more experienced. Not so. Coming across to a woman as though you know exactly what you are doing is all about self-confidence. And it’s not about being confident in closing the deal–it’s about knowing what you have to offer a woman is as high-quality as she could possibly find.

So which one are you?

The mistake I see men make is that they try to be something they’re not. Men will, on the spot, try to get a sense of what would please a woman and change up their approach hoping she’ll take the bait. Personally, I’ve saved myself a lot time and stress by just being myself. Women can sense a poser from a mile away. Being fake is an even bigger turn-off than bad pick-up lines or too much cologne.

Have the courage to be yourself. Once you do, women will let their guard down and be themselves. And when a woman feels at ease, well, anything is possible…

How To Be The Master (of Seduction)

Do you want to seduce the woman you like?

Women should find you irresistible if you want to seduce them. You can get any woman you want if you know the right way to seduce them.

When I talk of seduction, I’m referring to the way in which you act around a woman and how you speak to her. Seduction is your game.

When it comes down to it, it’s all about body language and words. Always keep in mind that you can either break, or create, an opportunity of attracting and seducing women with the right words. You always have to be conscious of your body language–at first–because, even if you use the right words, you may not be able to seduce a woman if you don’t make her feel comfortable with your presence.

Let’s face it: seduction is a mind game both men and women both play. Only those men succeed in the game of seduction if they are very aware of each and every move that they make.

Two piece of advice:

Be unique.

Have an objective.

(I’ll get more into these two in future blog posts.)

When you have mastered these two, you will be able to actually live the experience of seduction and not simply perform the act of seduction.

Here’s the truth: You can make yourself irresistible to the women if you have passion, compassion, distinctiveness and a personal style.

Ask any woman and she will tell you she likes a man who is outgoing, open and has a great sense of humor. So if you want to attract women, make sure that you are not uptight.

The thing is, don’t try too hard either. When I am out on a date with a woman, I can’t help but notice the men around me who are trying to be too funny, too entertaining, talk too loud, have their hands all over the woman they are trying to seduce (when she is clearly uncomfortable) and generally making an ass of themselves. Be cool when you’re with a woman. Don’t be one of those guys who blows it by trying too hard.

It may sound like a cliché, but be a little mysterious. Let the women discover or unfold the mystery. Women loved to be intrigued.

Players are Getting Played

Some of the stuff I’m seeing within the “Seduction Community” is so bad that it’s mind-blowing. Makes me wonder if these guys are just marketing people, trying to cash in on dateless guys online, because they’re surely not getting any dates with the crap advice they’re giving.

If you want a funny nickname and a list of “props” to help your approach and presentation, go to Clown College. If you want real life advice from a guy who is actually in the field, and chooses the game over celebrity, stick around…